Free Online Dating Sites Discussion

This whole dating thing, whether free or not, has been like an online shopping experience. Browse through hundreds of profiles of the opposite sex to find an item that you think you’d like to invest in. Pick and choose from hair and eye color to height and weight until you find the possible perfect match. Take it out for a test drive and see if it will handle the long haul. That’s how I’ve been feeling while digging through tons of profiles, narrowing them down to just a few that I felt would be worthwhile buying dinner for…

I have to admit that I’m not ready to invest money into this search and join a pay dating site, so I’m going to have to remain one-sided and somewhat biased only having dealt with free dating sites. But so far I’m not disappointed with what I’ve seen and experienced. The first girl that I took out for a run, let’s call her Sue, was actually the second girl that I contacted. This being a free dating site though, it almost begs you to contact as many women as possible, within your parameters of course. It took about 24 hours to hear back from Sue after posting a note on her profile, which was much faster than I anticipated - actually, I anticipated not hearing from anyone at all! The first girl that I attempted contact with never got back to me, perhaps something in my profile turned her off or maybe if I think optimistically, she already met someone and forgot to remove her profile.

Anyway, back to Sue! After she got back to me, we chatted through the site’s instant messaging system for about 2 hours, the longest conversation I’ve had in many years. Once we established that the other was not insane I coerced her into exchanging phone numbers ’cause time is of the essence. By that time it was already quite late, so I told her I would call her the next day and hopefully talk her into meeting face to face within the next week. I must digress at this point and discuss the whole “Wait 3 days before calling someone” thing. I’ve never understood this game and have never paid heed to this advice either. I’ve also never had a problem with a girl saying “You’re calling me the next day? I thought you were interested in me?” I don’t know if people still do this, but it really confuses me and always has - what’s wrong with playing it straight, if you like someone, call them up and take them out, if they say “no” then it wasn’t meant to be and move on!

Now that that’s out of the way, let me say that I did keep my word and call Sue the next day. Lo and behold, she agreed to a dinner date the following Saturday night. This is where I had to start with some serious thinking. How much did I want to spend on this girl? What caliber of restaurant should I take her to? Too expensive and I might look like a showoff, too cheap and I might look like a chump. I would have to find something just in between. This was the culmination of a free dating site after all.

Let me just say as well that I’ve never understood the whole movie and dinner date idea. The motive behind a date and especially a first date is to communicate and learn more about the person, something you can’t do in a theatre - you’re better off doing something interactive and then dinner, maybe even challenging each other physically and mentally?

Next up: The Big Date!

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